Some Men....
...never learn.
So...there's been some loud whisper of Christie Brinkley's file for divorce from her 47 year old fourth husband, Peter Cook, who she discovered was having an affair with an 18 year old. Not like this is a surprise or that it matters in the grand scheme of things. I mean, after all....we have enough wars and rumours of wars going on at this very moment to think about....not to mention how concerned the whole world is about Britney Spears' slow & painful descent into shittydom. But, allow me this slight detour into the world of the extra triflin'.
Anyhoo, so sometime today....Cook issued the following apology to his wife via his lawyer via the New York Post: ''This is an aberration, I'm sorry. I'm contrite. I'm stupid. Foolish. No excuse.''
...oh dear Peter.....Petey Pete Pete.......*sigh* ......truer words you have never spoken.
Yes Peter, you are sorry. stupid. & foolish. with no excuses. What else?
I find it absolutely mind boggling that men such as this......with enough life experiences....and plenty to lose (wife, kids, home, money, general well-being & stability)....behave very similar to untamed baboons in the wild. Like common, simple ass buffoons.
Its one thing if this man didn't want to reconcile. Then maybe we could all shrug our shoulders and say "sad. another dissatisfied man looking for a way out". But not really. In fact, according to his lawyer ''He hopes there's no divorce. IF she wants one, and he certainly hopes this doesn't happen, but IF -- it will not be nasty. She can have whatever she wants.''
....whatever she wants?......hmmm....too bad she can't have her marriage back.
Now, please. Lets not overlook Brinkley here. Afterall, she is the common denominator with 3 almost 4 marriages behind her........so who knows what sort of trouble she brews for her husbands........but still....today I'll use this as an excuse to purge my mind.
Ok, so as it is.... there are a wide array of double standards that we have assigned to men. This is the sad truth. We have plenty of excuses and reasons for why they're the way they are:....huge egos....biological differences.....not as emotional as women.....shipped in from mars.....blah blah blah.
Bull......shit.
Having given these arguments slight thought....I realized that the only one that could have possibly held the slightest bit of water....the tiniest bit....would have been: "men biologically only have a quarter portion of a brain & according to several worldwide studies do not appear to know the difference between right & wrong". Period. This is the only plausible excuse I can scrape together.
IN my mind, if a person is able to tell the clear difference between right & wrong (...and trust me...men....very similar to a 6 yr old...can tell the clear difference). Then there is nothing left to be said. From that point on, everything is based on individual choices & decisions.....albeit faulty....but nonetheless.....a decision made by a grown ass man. Besides, if someone could prove to me that ALL men were a certain way or ALL women are a certain way, then I would relinquish my argument. And make no mistake, I am not a resident in la la land who thinks human errors don't take place or people don't make honest mistakes. But do understand...that for every wrong acting man or woman, there's one that is not.... or damn, at the very least...not so disgustingly bad.
So for me, I find it hard to forgive random acts of stupidity. Perhaps once.....for benefit of the doubt purposes....and maybe twice....the good ole "last chance" effort. 'Cuz you know...maybe there needs to be some re-vamping....maybe i need to make it clear that the egregious violation will not be accepted.....a few sessions of therapy...some prayer. but after that...we have what they call "unreconcilable differences" ....a GANORMOUS problem. One that might involve me going to jail 'cuz I just sliced some man up and burned our 5 bedroom house down.
For example, if a 47 year old man has an affair with an 18 year old...and prior to that....a 19 year old. We have a ganormous problem. Aside from the obvious recidivism....you also happen to be looking at a possible child molestor. I mean....imagine the bile that would crawl up your throat upon realizing that your husband could quite possibly find your young teeny bopper daughter sensually attractive in the same way he should find Meryl Streep sensually attractive.
Like there isnt enough going on in an everyday marriage....enough to deal with....some wayward child...crazy in-law...inflated utility bills....sammy's dead goldfish.....an incompetent nanny....leaking roof....susie's ballet-soccer-piano lesson....than to have some idiot in the partnership....wife or husband...unable to keep his/her pants up/skirt down .
Give me a F'in break.
I read an article once that compared men who are serial cheaters to sociopaths. According to the article....repeat cheaters (men & women alike) are pretty much wired the same as serial killers. lol. I know.....crazy. So at first, I rolled my eyes at the attempt to draw the parallel. But, as I read...I realized that the article had a few key points worth noting. For one, the author pointed to the fact that psychologically speaking....a serial cheater has the same character flaws as a serial murderer, serial shoplifter, serial abuser.....basically...serial everything...i.e.: need for dangerous excitement that can never be satisfied, attention seeking, spontaneous behavior with an inability to control oneself or worse, a conscious choice not to control oneself, selfish with disregard for other's welfare, problems with authority, controlling, vast insecurities hidden by a huge ego that typically keeps one from ever considering the full consequences of one's actions, & a feeling of invisibility ("i won't get caught") or ("if i get caught, nothing really bad will happen").
lol.
Crazy, right?
Ya bet.
Now, if Brinkley decides to stay with his buffoon of a man...i think its fine...after all, at 52 yrs old....she would just be another grown ass woman making another stupid ass decision.....nothing new.
But please, keep the teenage girls locked up.
So...there's been some loud whisper of Christie Brinkley's file for divorce from her 47 year old fourth husband, Peter Cook, who she discovered was having an affair with an 18 year old. Not like this is a surprise or that it matters in the grand scheme of things. I mean, after all....we have enough wars and rumours of wars going on at this very moment to think about....not to mention how concerned the whole world is about Britney Spears' slow & painful descent into shittydom. But, allow me this slight detour into the world of the extra triflin'.
Anyhoo, so sometime today....Cook issued the following apology to his wife via his lawyer via the New York Post: ''This is an aberration, I'm sorry. I'm contrite. I'm stupid. Foolish. No excuse.''
...oh dear Peter.....Petey Pete Pete.......*sigh* ......truer words you have never spoken.
Yes Peter, you are sorry. stupid. & foolish. with no excuses. What else?
I find it absolutely mind boggling that men such as this......with enough life experiences....and plenty to lose (wife, kids, home, money, general well-being & stability)....behave very similar to untamed baboons in the wild. Like common, simple ass buffoons.
Its one thing if this man didn't want to reconcile. Then maybe we could all shrug our shoulders and say "sad. another dissatisfied man looking for a way out". But not really. In fact, according to his lawyer ''He hopes there's no divorce. IF she wants one, and he certainly hopes this doesn't happen, but IF -- it will not be nasty. She can have whatever she wants.''
....whatever she wants?......hmmm....too bad she can't have her marriage back.
Now, please. Lets not overlook Brinkley here. Afterall, she is the common denominator with 3 almost 4 marriages behind her........so who knows what sort of trouble she brews for her husbands........but still....today I'll use this as an excuse to purge my mind.
Ok, so as it is.... there are a wide array of double standards that we have assigned to men. This is the sad truth. We have plenty of excuses and reasons for why they're the way they are:....huge egos....biological differences.....not as emotional as women.....shipped in from mars.....blah blah blah.
Bull......shit.
Having given these arguments slight thought....I realized that the only one that could have possibly held the slightest bit of water....the tiniest bit....would have been: "men biologically only have a quarter portion of a brain & according to several worldwide studies do not appear to know the difference between right & wrong". Period. This is the only plausible excuse I can scrape together.
IN my mind, if a person is able to tell the clear difference between right & wrong (...and trust me...men....very similar to a 6 yr old...can tell the clear difference). Then there is nothing left to be said. From that point on, everything is based on individual choices & decisions.....albeit faulty....but nonetheless.....a decision made by a grown ass man. Besides, if someone could prove to me that ALL men were a certain way or ALL women are a certain way, then I would relinquish my argument. And make no mistake, I am not a resident in la la land who thinks human errors don't take place or people don't make honest mistakes. But do understand...that for every wrong acting man or woman, there's one that is not.... or damn, at the very least...not so disgustingly bad.
So for me, I find it hard to forgive random acts of stupidity. Perhaps once.....for benefit of the doubt purposes....and maybe twice....the good ole "last chance" effort. 'Cuz you know...maybe there needs to be some re-vamping....maybe i need to make it clear that the egregious violation will not be accepted.....a few sessions of therapy...some prayer. but after that...we have what they call "unreconcilable differences" ....a GANORMOUS problem. One that might involve me going to jail 'cuz I just sliced some man up and burned our 5 bedroom house down.
For example, if a 47 year old man has an affair with an 18 year old...and prior to that....a 19 year old. We have a ganormous problem. Aside from the obvious recidivism....you also happen to be looking at a possible child molestor. I mean....imagine the bile that would crawl up your throat upon realizing that your husband could quite possibly find your young teeny bopper daughter sensually attractive in the same way he should find Meryl Streep sensually attractive.
Like there isnt enough going on in an everyday marriage....enough to deal with....some wayward child...crazy in-law...inflated utility bills....sammy's dead goldfish.....an incompetent nanny....leaking roof....susie's ballet-soccer-piano lesson....than to have some idiot in the partnership....wife or husband...unable to keep his/her pants up/skirt down .
Give me a F'in break.
I read an article once that compared men who are serial cheaters to sociopaths. According to the article....repeat cheaters (men & women alike) are pretty much wired the same as serial killers. lol. I know.....crazy. So at first, I rolled my eyes at the attempt to draw the parallel. But, as I read...I realized that the article had a few key points worth noting. For one, the author pointed to the fact that psychologically speaking....a serial cheater has the same character flaws as a serial murderer, serial shoplifter, serial abuser.....basically...serial everything...i.e.: need for dangerous excitement that can never be satisfied, attention seeking, spontaneous behavior with an inability to control oneself or worse, a conscious choice not to control oneself, selfish with disregard for other's welfare, problems with authority, controlling, vast insecurities hidden by a huge ego that typically keeps one from ever considering the full consequences of one's actions, & a feeling of invisibility ("i won't get caught") or ("if i get caught, nothing really bad will happen").
lol.
Crazy, right?
Ya bet.
Now, if Brinkley decides to stay with his buffoon of a man...i think its fine...after all, at 52 yrs old....she would just be another grown ass woman making another stupid ass decision.....nothing new.
But please, keep the teenage girls locked up.
posted by AfroPosh at 8:19 AM
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